孩子们 hold the truth that was given to them as a 手册 at birth.
Life without a 手册
Although 幸福 is defined differently 通过 different people, everyone wants to be happy. 幸福 is a state of achievement, success and emotional comfort. It is a state of mind that we are all programmed at birth to seek. In life, we need to operate this complex machine called “me”，因此我们需要一本手册。
我相信我们都有出生时快乐的能力，而您会称之为“manual”, I would call “instinct”。看着孩子们了解他们对幸福的专注程度。他们将竭尽所能使自己开心。他们会哭，na，尖叫，然后爬到厨房柜台去到饼干罐。他们在玩时不介意变脏或变得凌乱。如果让他们开心，那就很好。观看它们，您会发现，即使他们还没读懂，他们也知道 Chapter 1 of the life 手册 –幸福是最终目的。
Unfortunately, this natural ability fades over the years, as if we forget the real purpose of our existence. At the age of 6, the decline of this force already begins. The teen years are the beginning of its end and too many adults have only vague memories of what 幸福 used to be.
当加尔和我不得不选择我们的主要公司理念时，我们选择了“快乐是一个选择”，因为它确实总结了我们所有程序的功能– giving people the ability to choose to be happy and pursue 幸福, just as kids do every second of their time. It was appealing to us because it matched my “成功经验理论”，将整体学习成功解释为成功经验的积累。当我们选择以积极的方式看待生活时，我们会体验成功，而我们越成功，我们就会越快乐。这给我们带来了 Chapter 2 of the life 手册 – To fill up our 幸福 tank, we need to actively choose 幸福.
孩子们毫无疑问知道什么会使他们开心。他们可能很难说或表达出来，但是他们所做的一切都是为了让他们开心。孩子们对...的定义很简单“happiness” – it is whatever brings me joy, comfort, pleasure and satisfaction NOW and you can recognize how their life is mostly designed to fulfill this need of 幸福. On the other hand, when I give grownups the task of making a list of things that make them happy, it is very hard for them, because they know what they do not want more than what they want.
大人经常批评孩子’ definition of 幸福, but in fact, kids’ definition is very simple and clear and gives them many opportunities to experience 幸福. It is not easy to convince a kid that doing homework will make him happy, because he knows that he is following Mom or Dad’s definition of 幸福 and not his own. From the second they are born, kids practice Chapter 3 of the life 手册 – Define 幸福. 幸福是目前的心态–我尽一切努力让妈妈现在抱着我或现在有糖果或现在看电视，因为这让我感到高兴。
Through fear and frustrating experiences, people learn to avoid pain rather than seeking 幸福. 孩子们 do not worry about the consequences as much as grownups do. Yes, I know, it gets them into trouble many times, but adults, with the ability to think of the consequences, do not get into less trouble, do they? 孩子们 are very much present-oriented creatures. They do not linger in the past as much as grownups. They are flexible and build bridges over many failures. They understand Chapter 4 of the life 手册 –专注于你想要的，而不是你所做的’t want.
孩子们 do not look for life to be easy, whereas adults look for an easier life continually. Adults want to have wonderful relationships without investing time and effort, they want to have money without working for it, they want to have lots of friends without having to be kind and thus, they miss the whole point sometimes. No one has ever said life is easy, but 幸福 is worth our efforts. I believe kids understand Chapter 5 of the life 手册 –我可能要努力工作才能找到最上面的Cookie，但值得付出努力。 生活中充满了饼干，等着你。
因为孩子们知道幸福值得他们付出努力，所以他们不会轻易放弃。孩子们不会停止尝试获得他们想要的东西，障碍也不会轻易地将他们推迟。您是否见过一个婴儿试图爬玩具而没有爬行能力？如果您曾经见过小鳄鱼，您会知道他们在某个地方的路上，会互相爬行，到达目的地。有人可能会称之为“忽略其他所有人”，但我会称之为“being 焦点ed”。在对孩子的研究中’情绪智力方面，孩子们被赋予建立不可能的结构的任务。孩子越年轻，他们尝试的次数就越多，并且青少年的尝试次数下降到0。您可以说小孩更执着。孩子们住 Chapter 6 of the life 手册 –问题和失败是暂时的。 我专注！问题不是停车标志，而是准则。
I have found out that hanging around kids helps me remember 如何 be happy. The younger they are, the more able they are to attract 幸福 into their life and it is contagious. It is no coincidence that spending time with babies, doing nothing meaningful at all, makes people so happy.
Parents are lucky, because they can learn this from their kids. Teachers are lucky, because they can learn it from their young students (especially in early childhood education). If you want to re-learn what you once knew, spend some time with kids and watch them effortlessly follow an imaginary 手册 that they do not even know exists and let the magic happen to you too.